When entering the university, the first thing you might notice is that you have to make new friends. Making new friends is not difficult. However, you might just have to get familiar with some simple techniques to approach new people. In this blog, I will explain why it is important to make new friends and how you can do this.
First of all, you have to remember that you can always make new friends, regardless time and place. With this mindset, you will be able to make new friends in every situation. It does not matter whether your new friend is a fellow student, a teacher or a coffee lady. When you have many friends around you, you will have lots of people to talk to. It is always nice to share your thoughts and ideas with people so that you will develop new ways of thinking and understanding. Today’s blog will focus on being friends with your fellow students.
So, how can you develop your friendship with new people? Just start simple by making eye contact, make a big smile and say “hi, how are you” everytime you see potential friends. It is that simple! Now you are probably wondering what you should say after that. That depends on to who you are talking to (some people are really talkactive!) and where you see them. For instance, sometimes I saw my fellow student walking through the hall. My first response was always “hi, how are you? Where are you going?”.
Most of the time the conversation would just start. However, I have been in situations wherein I could not think of a topic to talk about (reminds me to the moments of uncomfortable silence when sitting in the bus together with a fellow student). So, I created some ways to help myself when coming across such a situation.
What I first did was trying to talk about a course that I and my fellow student were following. Simple questions I used to ask to my fellow student were related to what they thought about the course (e.g. difficult or useful course, nice professor) and how they would prepare for the exam. Then I would respond with my own opinion about the course in order to have a nice conversation. Talking about the course materials with fellow students is a good way to exchange thoughts and ideas. I think it is the best way to study for an exam and a great way to interact with your fellow student.
Ofcourse, you don’t want to talk about your study everytime you see a potential friend. There are many topics you can think of, for instance, when the holidays/weekends are approaching you can ask how your potential friend will spend his or her holidays/weekends. Most of the people will look forward to their holidays/weekends and will talk about it excitingly.
One of the most important thing that you need to know when developing a friendship is that you have to listen. You probably are thinking, ofcourse I listen! However, you need to make your friend know that you are listening activily. You can do this by remembering what your friends is telling you and ask for it later. For example, if you know that your friend is going to the beach on friday, you can ask him on saturday whether your friend had a nice time on the beach. This way, your friend will know that you pay attention to what he is saying. As a result your friend will enjoy talking to you even more.
Don’t forget to add your friend on facebook / linkedin. This way you will be updated about your friend’s life, which will provide you even more topics to talk about when meeting them later.
It is never too late to make new friends. Just start with saying “hi”. See you at my next post!